The other night I was streaming an episode of the show American Odyssey when an intimate scene between two characters struck me in such a lovely way. For those of you who don't know the show, it has a "network television series" feel to it and the main plot centers around a female soldier in the middle east who's presumed dead … Continue reading Stay With Me | Why Being Present Makes or Breaks Relationships
Parents often feel at a loss with their kids and sometimes, they don't feel that they don't know how to best support a kid that's extremely emotional. This post offers some tips and a basic formula that can help parents change the emotional dynamic in the home.
We all hide who we really are, even from ourselves. But why? And how do we start to live in a more genuine way when others may not want us to change?
A while back I read that it's a thing to automatically follow someone who follows you, but the practicality of this seems...well...absent. How could we possibly follow, in any sort of meaningful way, hundreds and thousands of people? But I guess that's the point, social media isn't all that meaningful...yet it is...and it isn't. So … Continue reading The Auto-Follow Etiquette
When we're down, especially when we're really down, we have a hard time feeling hopeful, being optimistic, or seeing that things will get better. It can be particularly frustrating, even infuriating, for someone who is very depressed to hear, "oh, it'll get better," "it'll be okay," or, "it's not that bad." The person saying this … Continue reading When Hope Feels Like Bullshit
As someone who was in therapy for 10 years during my youth and is now a psychotherapist, the notion of "getting to know ourselves" has always been vital. But recently, as I've been speaking with some of my clients, it's occurred to me that many of us don't know what this statement means, exactly. Some … Continue reading What Does It Mean To Get To Know Yourself?
As we know, people come for therapy because they're struggling with some or many aspects of their life. Sometimes, the level of their suffering exceeds their ability to cope and a sense of desperation comes about. I've seen this mostly in people who have been suffering for longer periods of time and continue to experience … Continue reading When Therapy Clients say: "It Doesn’t Work" "I’ve Tried Everything"
As we know, people come for therapy because they're struggling with some or many aspects of their life. Sometimes, the level of their suffering exceeds their ability to cope and a sense of desperation comes about. I've seen this mostly in people who have been suffering for longer periods of time and continue to experience … Continue reading When Therapy Clients say: “It Doesn’t Work” “I’ve Tried Everything”
This week I’ve found myself homesick--not for any particular place, not even for particular people. Rather, the experience has been one of a generalized ache for those times in my life when I’ve felt enveloped in day-to-day inclusion, love, belonging. I've felt this with my family, certainly, but I’ve also felt this way in communities … Continue reading Belonging in a Community of Strangers
In the expanse of possibility exist boundaries. From the time we are born, we are exploring them, pushing up against them, seeking to cross them in order to continue our own reach into this expanse. It doesn’t always make us happy to succeed, and it can often cause harm to others when we do. In … Continue reading Boundaries Within the Cultivation of Egolessness