I was born and raised in a far Western Suburbs of Chicago and both sides of my family generally came from the Midwest. My father served as a police officer for roughly three decades and my mother was primarily a stay at home mother until my sister and I were older, but she would also work various part-time jobs. As it happens in many other families, my parents divorced, when I was 11, and I lived with my father while my sister went off to college.
Before and after the divorce, our family life was very difficult and painful for all of us. I experienced some pretty significant anxiety during childhood and at the age of 10, I elected to start therapy with the help of my father. What surprised me was that I loved it and I was astounded by how much I learned about myself, others and how we work as humans. It helped me become grounded, aware, and it allowed me to better empathize with others.
I continued therapy for roughly 9 years and used it every so often after that. I found that it was important to continue reflecting and changing because that meant that I was perpetually improving while maintaining the positive changes I had already made.Throughout the years I’ve lived in Phoenix, Chicago and Milwaukee, but the culture and people Chicago (the city) have always felt more like home to me. Despite it’s problems, the energy, diversity, and the neighborhoods make it an amazing place to me. While my wife, Rachel, and I always dream of moving out West or to the Pacific Northwest, we’ll always consider Chicago our home.
Since I started working as a teenager, nearly all of my jobs (and there have been many different ones) have involved helping people. I’ve worked as a server, line cook, I’ve framed houses, worked in printing, as a customer service rep for a phone company, as a project manager and business analyst, in a Buddhist center as the Director of Membership and Volunteer, and so on. Some people have mistakenly assumed that these jobs were the product of someone who was unfocused but it was quite the opposite. Fundamentally I knew that I could do well at whatever I put my mind to so at an early age I started to experiment with different types of work. If you’d like to see a more recent and relevant list of my experience, just download my CV here.
As my CV will show you, my EXPERIENCE in the field of PSYCHOLOGY and mental health has varied. Each position has personally interested me and has also been extremely growth promoting and enriching. I’ve learned so much in working to help people in crisis, such as with those in inpatient settings, and from people with more subtle or minor issues. I didn’t plan to work with adolescents as much as I have, but it’s been a perfect fit for me and it’s felt completely right. In fact, I think working with adolescents and their families/parents has been one of the most challenging and fulfilling things to do. As I’ve found it, if a psychologist or other type of therapist can work well with multiple people in the same family while maintaining effective boundaries and separate relationships, then they can work with nearly anyone. Granted, working in a forensic setting is likely the exception to this. Nonetheless, other situations tend to be less complex for the therapist, but the content of the issues may require some research and careful consideration. I’ve worked with some of the most challenging situations and disorders, but also with those that are very minor. Therefore, I know that I have the ability to help nearly any client or problems. However, if I don’t feel properly equipped in supporting someone then I don’t hesitate to refer them to someone else. In my view, a good psychologist or therapist knows their limits. They’ll also admit them without hesitation because what is most important is the client receiving the adequate care.
Pictured – Dr. Lodrö serving as NewHope Academy’s event photographer during Therapy Dog Day where all of the students get to spend time with 5-10 trained therapy dogs